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Ch 7 — Polygamy and Islam / The Islamic Way

Women In Islam — Maulana Wahiduddin Khan

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Contents (85 chapters)
  1. Foreword
  2. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / The Wisdom of Creation
  3. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Some Sayings of the Prophet
  4. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Equal in Respect, Different in Role
  5. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / The Position of Women in Islam
  6. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Islam Gives More Respect to Women than Men
  7. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / The Succour of God
  8. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Islam Holds Women in High Esteem
  9. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Women in Every Field
  10. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Women and Education
  11. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Islam and Modesty
  12. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / The Obligations and Rights of Women
  13. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Attributes of Men and Women
  14. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / The Rights of Women in Islam
  15. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Progress of Women in Islamic Society
  16. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Women in Religious Life
  17. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Islam and Women
  18. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Islam Gives Women Complete Freedom
  19. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / An Old Woman's Courage
  20. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Women and Inheritance of Property
  21. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / The Testimony of Women
  22. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Working Outdoors
  23. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Women in the Field of Education
  24. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Status of Women in Society
  25. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Unnatural Equality
  26. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Status of Women in Religions
  27. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Gender Equality
  28. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Equal in Respect, Different in Role
  29. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Role of Women in History
  30. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / A Clarification of a Misunderstanding
  31. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Empowerment of Women
  32. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Progress of Women: An Islamic Perspective
  33. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / Ideal Women
  34. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / The Story of Hazrat Khadijah
  35. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / Glad Tidings
  36. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / Mothers of the Believers
  37. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / The Example Set by Hazrat Fatimah
  38. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / Exemplary Muslim Women
  39. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / Fortitude of Muslim Women
  40. Ch 5 — Hijab in Islam / Here's the Truth Behind the Veil
  41. Ch 5 — Hijab in Islam / Hijab in the Light of the Quran and Hadith
  42. Ch 5 — Hijab in Islam / Hijab: A Comprehensive Term
  43. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Sanctity of Marriage in Islam
  44. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Successful Marriage
  45. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Dower (Mahr)
  46. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Hazrat Fatimah's Dower
  47. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / The Companions and Their Marriages
  48. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Stability in Marriage
  49. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Breaking the Conditioning Mould
  50. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Position of Woman in Islamic Shariah
  51. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Adjustment in Marital Life
  52. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Principle of Adjustment
  53. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Marriage: Intellectual Partnership
  54. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Emotionalism vs Egoism
  55. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Companionship of Husband and Wife
  56. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Mutual Trust
  57. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Qawwamiat or 'Bossism'
  58. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / The Boss at Home
  59. Ch 7 — Polygamy and Islam / The Issue of Polygamy in Islam
  60. Ch 7 — Polygamy and Islam / The Inequality in Numbers
  61. Ch 7 — Polygamy and Islam / The Willingness of Women
  62. Ch 7 — Polygamy and Islam / Solution to a Problem Rather than a General Commandment
  63. Ch 7 — Polygamy and Islam / The Islamic Way
  64. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / The Issue of Divorce
  65. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / Satan's Greatest Weapon
  66. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / Divorce in Islam
  67. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / Two Ways of Divorcing
  68. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / The Case of Women
  69. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / The Meaning of Provision
  70. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / After Divorce
  71. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Women's Spiritual Role in Early Muslim Society
  72. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Women's Spiritual Role in Later Muslim History
  73. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Paradise Lies at the Feet of the Mother
  74. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Shaping Family and Society on Spiritual Lines
  75. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Family: Microcosm of Society
  76. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Better Home, Better Society
  77. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / A Mother's Responsibility
  78. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Family Culture: A Narrow Outlook
  79. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / The Faulty Role of Parents
  80. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / The Harm of Pampering
  81. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / The Upbringing of Children
  82. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Cultivating a Religious Environment at Home
  83. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Home-Schooling: A Hub of Intellectual Activities
  84. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Mother as a Role Model
  85. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Woman at the Beginning of All Great Things

THE ISLAMIC WAY p. 197

As the solution to the problem where the number of women exceeds men in society, Islamic Shariah gives permission to men, under special conditions, to marry more than one woman. This principle of polygamy, as enshrined in the Islamic Shariah, is designed to save women from the ignoble consequences mentioned above. This commandment, although general in application, was given only as a solution to a specific social problem. It provides an arrangement whereby surplus women may save themselves from sexual anarchy and have a proper, stable family life. That is to say, it is not a question of adopting polygamy rather than monogamy. The choice is between polygamy and sexual anarchy. p. 198

If the commandment to practice polygamy is seen in the abstract, it would appear to be biased in favour of men. However, when placed in the context of social organization, it favours women. Polygamy is both a proper and a natural solution to women’s problems. p. 198

The permission to practice polygamy in Islam was not given to enable men to satisfy their sexual urges. It was designed as a practical strategy to solve a particular problem. Marrying more than one woman is possible only when there are more women than men. Failing this is out of the question. Is it conceivable that Islam, to satisfy man’s desires, would give us a commandment that is neither possible nor practical? p. 198

The Encyclopaedia Britannica (1984) aptly concludes that one reason for adopting polygamy is the surplus of women. Among most people who permit or prefer it, the large majority of men live in a state of monogamy because of the limited number of women. (Encyclopaedia Britannica (1984), Vol. 8, p.97) p. 198other source

To have more than one wife is not an ideal in Islam. It is, in essence, a practical solution to a social problem. p. 199

In Conclusion p. 199

In normal situations, the birth rates of men and women are almost equal in number. Subsequently, the number of men in society decreases for various reasons, leaving an excess of women. Under such circumstances, by following the principle of monogamy, hundreds of thousands of women fail to find husbands for themselves and are thus denied an honourable place in society. Monogamy as an absolute principle may seem pleasing to some, but events show this is not entirely practicable today. The choice for us, therefore, is not between monogamy and polygamy but rather between the lawful polygamy of Islam and the illicit polygamy of non-Islamic peoples. The latter system leaves “surplus” women to lead lives of sexual anarchy and social destruction. On the other hand, the former permits them to opt for their own free will in marriage to anyone who can give fair treatment to more than one wife. p. 199

DIVORCE IN ISLAM p. 201

Islam allows for only one sort of physical relationship between men and women, and that is in the form of marriage, which is announced and publicly known. Differences will inevitably arise between the spouses. According to Islam, the way out is not by seeking to wipe out these differences but, rather, to accept them, to seek to reconcile them or for the spouses to continue to live together despite their differences. p. 201

Yet, it sometimes happens that the spouses are unable to manage their differences properly and so decide to go in for a divorce. Divorce has been accepted in Islam as something that can be resorted to in extreme circumstances. However, Islam frowns upon divorce. According to a Hadith, although divorce is permissible, it is the most hateful of the permissible things. p. 201original + quote

The Quran says that a man can give two revocable utterances of divorce, after which he can retain his wife and stay together on equitable terms or else leave her gracefully (2: 229). This method of divorce over a period of three months was devised so that considerable thought could be given to something as serious as divorce. This ensures that utterances of divorce are a planned step where all possible means of reconciliation are considered. p. 202original + quote