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Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Emotionalism vs Egoism

Women In Islam — Maulana Wahiduddin Khan

Badges mark quoted or attributed material (Qur'an, hadith, another author, an opposing view). Unbadged passages are Maulana Wahiduddin Khan's own words.

Contents (85 chapters)
  1. Foreword
  2. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / The Wisdom of Creation
  3. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Some Sayings of the Prophet
  4. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Equal in Respect, Different in Role
  5. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / The Position of Women in Islam
  6. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Islam Gives More Respect to Women than Men
  7. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / The Succour of God
  8. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Islam Holds Women in High Esteem
  9. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Women in Every Field
  10. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Women and Education
  11. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Islam and Modesty
  12. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / The Obligations and Rights of Women
  13. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Attributes of Men and Women
  14. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / The Rights of Women in Islam
  15. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Progress of Women in Islamic Society
  16. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Women in Religious Life
  17. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Islam and Women
  18. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Islam Gives Women Complete Freedom
  19. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / An Old Woman's Courage
  20. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Women and Inheritance of Property
  21. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / The Testimony of Women
  22. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Working Outdoors
  23. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Women in the Field of Education
  24. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Status of Women in Society
  25. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Unnatural Equality
  26. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Status of Women in Religions
  27. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Gender Equality
  28. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Equal in Respect, Different in Role
  29. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Role of Women in History
  30. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / A Clarification of a Misunderstanding
  31. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Empowerment of Women
  32. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Progress of Women: An Islamic Perspective
  33. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / Ideal Women
  34. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / The Story of Hazrat Khadijah
  35. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / Glad Tidings
  36. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / Mothers of the Believers
  37. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / The Example Set by Hazrat Fatimah
  38. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / Exemplary Muslim Women
  39. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / Fortitude of Muslim Women
  40. Ch 5 — Hijab in Islam / Here's the Truth Behind the Veil
  41. Ch 5 — Hijab in Islam / Hijab in the Light of the Quran and Hadith
  42. Ch 5 — Hijab in Islam / Hijab: A Comprehensive Term
  43. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Sanctity of Marriage in Islam
  44. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Successful Marriage
  45. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Dower (Mahr)
  46. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Hazrat Fatimah's Dower
  47. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / The Companions and Their Marriages
  48. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Stability in Marriage
  49. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Breaking the Conditioning Mould
  50. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Position of Woman in Islamic Shariah
  51. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Adjustment in Marital Life
  52. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Principle of Adjustment
  53. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Marriage: Intellectual Partnership
  54. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Emotionalism vs Egoism
  55. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Companionship of Husband and Wife
  56. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Mutual Trust
  57. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Qawwamiat or 'Bossism'
  58. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / The Boss at Home
  59. Ch 7 — Polygamy and Islam / The Issue of Polygamy in Islam
  60. Ch 7 — Polygamy and Islam / The Inequality in Numbers
  61. Ch 7 — Polygamy and Islam / The Willingness of Women
  62. Ch 7 — Polygamy and Islam / Solution to a Problem Rather than a General Commandment
  63. Ch 7 — Polygamy and Islam / The Islamic Way
  64. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / The Issue of Divorce
  65. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / Satan's Greatest Weapon
  66. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / Divorce in Islam
  67. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / Two Ways of Divorcing
  68. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / The Case of Women
  69. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / The Meaning of Provision
  70. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / After Divorce
  71. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Women's Spiritual Role in Early Muslim Society
  72. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Women's Spiritual Role in Later Muslim History
  73. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Paradise Lies at the Feet of the Mother
  74. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Shaping Family and Society on Spiritual Lines
  75. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Family: Microcosm of Society
  76. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Better Home, Better Society
  77. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / A Mother's Responsibility
  78. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Family Culture: A Narrow Outlook
  79. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / The Faulty Role of Parents
  80. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / The Harm of Pampering
  81. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / The Upbringing of Children
  82. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Cultivating a Religious Environment at Home
  83. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Home-Schooling: A Hub of Intellectual Activities
  84. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Mother as a Role Model
  85. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Woman at the Beginning of All Great Things

EMOTIONALISM VS EGOISM p. 178

When a man and a woman tie the knot in marriage, it is a coming together of two opposite personalities. A woman is emotional, while a man is egoistic. These traits are a part of their nature. p. 178

There are positive and negative aspects to both these traits. If they are used positively, they will be a boon to humanity. But if they are put to harmful use, it will be a bane for humanity. p. 178

The positive aspect of egoism in man is that it is one of the driving forces in working steadfastly for a cause. A man bereft of this quality will be weak, lacking in willpower, and fail to accomplish any task requiring determination and perseverance. However, the negative aspect is that it will make him arrogant. Therefore, one must be very careful and not allow one’s ego to sway one towards the negative side, as this would be counterproductive. p. 179

Similarly, a woman tends to be on the emotional side. This trait has its positive as well as negative aspects. The positive aspect is that she is more sensitive and, therefore, more gentle and compassionate, which is, without doubt, a positive quality. However, the negative aspect is that it can give her an obstinate personality, thus making her stubborn even when a flexible approach is necessary. If a woman allows this aspect of her nature to go unchecked, it will be detrimental to the wholesome development of her personality. p. 179

A man and a woman should understand the natural traits they are born with. They must consciously strive to use their positive aspects and sedulously refrain from taking any negative course. The secret of success in both men and women lies in this self-control. p. 179