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Principle 67 — Friend in Foe

001 100 Principles For Purposeful Living — Maulana Wahiduddin Khan

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Contents (101 chapters)
  1. Foreword
  2. Principle 1 — The Importance of Knowledge in Islam
  3. Principle 2 — Gaining Knowledge
  4. Principle 3 — Passion for Learning
  5. Principle 4 — The Treasure of Knowledge
  6. Principle 5 — The Acquisition of Knowledge
  7. Principle 6 — The Gift of Knowledge
  8. Principle 7 — The Superiority of Knowledge
  9. Principle 8 — Keeping a Record of Knowledge
  10. Principle 9 — Knowledge for the Sake of Knowledge
  11. Principle 10 — Non-Beneficial Knowledge
  12. Principle 11 — A Developed Personality
  13. Principle 12 — Ask Someone Who Knows
  14. Principle 13 — Contemplation on God's Blessings
  15. Principle 14 — The Process of Reflection
  16. Principle 15 — Humility in Learning
  17. Principle 16 — Education and Training
  18. Principle 17 — Knowledge and Seriousness
  19. Principle 18 — Increase in Knowledge
  20. Principle 19 — No Excuse
  21. Principle 20 — Intuition Serves as a Guide
  22. Principle 21 — Wisdom
  23. Principle 22 — Living in Hope
  24. Principle 23 — Sustainable Action
  25. Principle 24 — Being Aware of the Times
  26. Principle 25 — Purposeful Life
  27. Principle 26 — The Principle of Beneficence
  28. Principle 27 — Success in Silence
  29. Principle 28 — Two Different Attributes
  30. Principle 29 — Success Comes with Patience
  31. Principle 30 — Refraining from Confrontation
  32. Principle 31 — Look at the One Below You
  33. Principle 32 — Passing Time
  34. Principle 33 — No Despair
  35. Principle 34 — High Morals
  36. Principle 35 — Selfless Man
  37. Principle 36 — Eradication of Evil
  38. Principle 37 — What is Sin?
  39. Principle 38 — The Rights of Neighbours
  40. Principle 39 — Compassion for the Young and Respect for the Elders
  41. Principle 40 — Fulfilling the Contract
  42. Principle 41 — Recompense for Goodness
  43. Principle 42 — Not Rejoicing Over Another's Suffering
  44. Principle 43 — Having a Good Opinion
  45. Principle 44 — On Acknowledging Favor
  46. Principle 45 — Regretting a Mistake
  47. Principle 46 — The Voice of the Conscience
  48. Principle 47 — Return the Trust
  49. Principle 48 — Peace Culture
  50. Principle 49 — Pacifism
  51. Principle 50 — Peaceful Citizen
  52. Principle 51 — Avoid Harm
  53. Principle 52 — Greater Power
  54. Principle 53 — Reconciliation is Better
  55. Principle 54 — Social Service
  56. Principle 55 — All Human Beings Are Equal
  57. Principle 56 — The Importance of Consultation
  58. Principle 57 — Not Permissible to Stop Talking for More than Three Days
  59. Principle 58 — Verifying Before Accepting
  60. Principle 59 — All Human Beings Are Brothers
  61. Principle 60 — Three Forbidden Things
  62. Principle 61 — Everyone is Held Responsible
  63. Principle 62 — Help Everyone
  64. Principle 63 — Gentle Demeanor
  65. Principle 64 — Formula for Mercy
  66. Principle 65 — Mutual Respect
  67. Principle 66 — Respecting All Religions
  68. Principle 67 — Friend in Foe
  69. Principle 68 — Lack of Gentleness
  70. Principle 69 — The Importance of Simplicity
  71. Principle 70 — The Importance of Cleanliness
  72. Principle 71 — The Middle Path
  73. Principle 72 — Elevation through Humility
  74. Principle 73 — Extravagance
  75. Principle 74 — Collective Blessing
  76. Principle 75 — The Demand for Justice
  77. Principle 76 — Taking More Than Your Right
  78. Principle 77 — The Same in Return
  79. Principle 78 — Economic Stability
  80. Principle 79 — Provision from God
  81. Principle 80 — Contentment
  82. Principle 81 — Don't Ask Anyone
  83. Principle 82 — Trade is a Major Source of Livelihood
  84. Principle 83 — Livelihood
  85. Principle 84 — Control on the Tongue
  86. Principle 85 — Atonement for Backbiting
  87. Principle 86 — A Comprehensive Advice
  88. Principle 87 — Patience and Avoidance
  89. Principle 88 — Unilateral Tolerance
  90. Principle 89 — The Method of Avoidance
  91. Principle 90 — Success in Patience
  92. Principle 91 — Agreeing to Lesser Evil
  93. Principle 92 — Defense Through Tolerance
  94. Principle 93 — Do Not Be Angry
  95. Principle 94 — Solution to Anger
  96. Principle 95 — Seeking Refuge from the Devil
  97. Principle 96 — Who is Powerful?
  98. Principle 97 — Ease in Difficulty
  99. Principle 98 — Choose the Easy Way
  100. Principle 99 — Virtue in Something You Disapprove of
  101. Principle 100 — A Prayer

Friend in Foe p. 65

The Quran says that if a person sees you as his enemy, do not retaliate against him, rather, treat him well. (41:34) This unilateral behavior will result in turning your enemy into your friend. This teaching of Islam shows that enmity is not permanent. The fact is that there is a potential friend in every enemy. Make this possibility a reality with your unilateral good behavior, and you will turn your enemy into your friend. p. 65original + quote

Responding with kindness awakens a man’s conscience, and when this happens, he will leave enmity and become your friend. p. 65