Women In Islam

Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / The Story of Hazrat Khadijah

Women In Islam — Maulana Wahiduddin Khan

Badges mark quoted or attributed material (Qur'an, hadith, another author, an opposing view). Unbadged passages are Maulana Wahiduddin Khan's own words.

Contents (85 chapters)
  1. Foreword
  2. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / The Wisdom of Creation
  3. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Some Sayings of the Prophet
  4. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Equal in Respect, Different in Role
  5. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / The Position of Women in Islam
  6. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Islam Gives More Respect to Women than Men
  7. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / The Succour of God
  8. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Islam Holds Women in High Esteem
  9. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Women in Every Field
  10. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Women and Education
  11. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Islam and Modesty
  12. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / The Obligations and Rights of Women
  13. Ch 1 — Women and Islam / Attributes of Men and Women
  14. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / The Rights of Women in Islam
  15. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Progress of Women in Islamic Society
  16. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Women in Religious Life
  17. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Islam and Women
  18. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Islam Gives Women Complete Freedom
  19. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / An Old Woman's Courage
  20. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Women and Inheritance of Property
  21. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / The Testimony of Women
  22. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Working Outdoors
  23. Ch 2 — Rights and Progress of Women / Women in the Field of Education
  24. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Status of Women in Society
  25. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Unnatural Equality
  26. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Status of Women in Religions
  27. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Gender Equality
  28. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Equal in Respect, Different in Role
  29. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Role of Women in History
  30. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / A Clarification of a Misunderstanding
  31. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Empowerment of Women
  32. Ch 3 — Women in History and Today / Progress of Women: An Islamic Perspective
  33. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / Ideal Women
  34. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / The Story of Hazrat Khadijah
  35. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / Glad Tidings
  36. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / Mothers of the Believers
  37. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / The Example Set by Hazrat Fatimah
  38. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / Exemplary Muslim Women
  39. Ch 4 — Women from Muslim History / Fortitude of Muslim Women
  40. Ch 5 — Hijab in Islam / Here's the Truth Behind the Veil
  41. Ch 5 — Hijab in Islam / Hijab in the Light of the Quran and Hadith
  42. Ch 5 — Hijab in Islam / Hijab: A Comprehensive Term
  43. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Sanctity of Marriage in Islam
  44. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Successful Marriage
  45. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Dower (Mahr)
  46. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Hazrat Fatimah's Dower
  47. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / The Companions and Their Marriages
  48. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Stability in Marriage
  49. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Breaking the Conditioning Mould
  50. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Position of Woman in Islamic Shariah
  51. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Adjustment in Marital Life
  52. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Principle of Adjustment
  53. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Marriage: Intellectual Partnership
  54. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Emotionalism vs Egoism
  55. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Companionship of Husband and Wife
  56. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Mutual Trust
  57. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / Qawwamiat or 'Bossism'
  58. Ch 6 — Marriage in Islam / The Boss at Home
  59. Ch 7 — Polygamy and Islam / The Issue of Polygamy in Islam
  60. Ch 7 — Polygamy and Islam / The Inequality in Numbers
  61. Ch 7 — Polygamy and Islam / The Willingness of Women
  62. Ch 7 — Polygamy and Islam / Solution to a Problem Rather than a General Commandment
  63. Ch 7 — Polygamy and Islam / The Islamic Way
  64. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / The Issue of Divorce
  65. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / Satan's Greatest Weapon
  66. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / Divorce in Islam
  67. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / Two Ways of Divorcing
  68. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / The Case of Women
  69. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / The Meaning of Provision
  70. Ch 8 — Divorce in Islam / After Divorce
  71. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Women's Spiritual Role in Early Muslim Society
  72. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Women's Spiritual Role in Later Muslim History
  73. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Paradise Lies at the Feet of the Mother
  74. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Shaping Family and Society on Spiritual Lines
  75. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Family: Microcosm of Society
  76. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Better Home, Better Society
  77. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / A Mother's Responsibility
  78. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Family Culture: A Narrow Outlook
  79. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / The Faulty Role of Parents
  80. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / The Harm of Pampering
  81. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / The Upbringing of Children
  82. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Cultivating a Religious Environment at Home
  83. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Home-Schooling: A Hub of Intellectual Activities
  84. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Mother as a Role Model
  85. Ch 9 — Shaping the Family and Society / Woman at the Beginning of All Great Things

THE STORY OF HAZRAT KHADIJAH p. 110

Khadijah (555-619) was a noble lady of Makkah. She was well known all around for her good nature and wealth. Like the Prophet Muhammad, she belonged to the tribe of the Quraysh. They had a common great-grandfather who was called Qusayy ibn Kilab. This is how they both were a part of the same big family. Khadijah was a 40-year-old wealthy widow when she married Prophet Muhammad. p. 110

The Prophet of Islam and Khadijah had six children, two boys and four girls. Both the boys, Qasim and Abdullah, died when they were still babies. The four daughters, Zaynab, Ruqayya, Umm Kulthum, and Fatima, grew up into beautiful young girls and were married when the time came. After his marriage to Khadijah, the Prophet started to spend more and more time thinking. There were many questions to which he tried to find an answer: p. 110

“Who is the being that has made the earth, the heavens, and everything between them? How did man come into being? Why was he placed on earth? How should he live on earth? What is life? What is death? And what will happen to man after he dies?” p. 111

After years of seeking the truth, God showered His mercy on him and quenched his thirst for truth. He was visited by an angel in a cave called Hira. Here, he was blessed with prophethood. However, this experience in the Cave of Hira shook the Prophet to his core. He did not know what to make of it. Disturbed and frightened, he went straight home and told Khadijah about the incident. He said: “Khadijah, I do not understand what has happened to me. I am worried about my life.” Seeing him trembling in shock and distress, Khadijah put a blanket over him and comforted him, saying: “God will never let you down. You are kind to your family. You are truthful. You help people in need and people experiencing poverty. You gladly welcome anybody who comes as a guest to your house. You follow the way of truth and justice.” (Al-Seerah al Nabwiyah by Ibn Kathir, Vol. 1, pp. 385-86) p. 111original + quote

Some time passed in this way. And then, one day, God commanded the Prophet: “Now the time has come to call people to Islam and preach the message openly.” (Seerah Ibn Hisham, Vol. 1, p. 262) p. 111original + quote

The Prophet realized that this was the beginning of a new era and that much would be expected of him now. He started to preach Islam full-time. He gave up his business activities, and Khadijah placed her wealth at his disposal. Her entire fortune was used up in the cause of Islam. p. 111

Khadijah gave her wealth to the cause of Islam and became personally involved in dawah work. She organized meals for the people of Makkah. This allowed her to meet them in groups, talk to them, and tell them about Islam. Some liked what they heard and joined the small group of believers. p. 112

However, not everybody liked the Prophet’s message, and many people in Makkah opposed Islam. This was especially true of the Quraysh tribe, who were the leaders of Makkah. They were scared that people would turn away from tribal traditions and would no longer listen to them. They began to be cruel to the Prophet and those who accepted Islam. They spoke rudely to them, threw dust and garbage on them when they passed their houses, and would not let them buy goods in their shops or do business with them. They would not allow them to take part in their gatherings. They spread all sorts of lies about them. p. 112

One day, the Prophet was sitting in Hira’s cave and did not return home at his usual time. Khadijah became worried. She thought the Quraysh might harm him, so she sent a man to look for him. She wondered: “What could have happened to him? Why is he late?” The man she sent returned empty-handed and told her he could not find the Prophet anywhere in town. Khadijah decided to go and look for him herself. At that time, the Prophet was in the cave with the angel Gabriel. Gabriel said to the Prophet: “Khadijah is coming here. She has got some food and water for you.” And then he added: “When she comes in, give her the greetings from her Lord and tell her that there will be a house made of pearls for her in Paradise.” When Khadijah arrived, the Prophet told her: “Here is Gabriel. He is giving greetings to you from your Lord, and he is greeting you.” p. 112original + quote

Khadijah replied: “God is peace, and He is the source of all peace! May God’s peace and blessings be upon you, Messenger of God. And my greetings to Gabriel.” (Al-Nasai, Sunan Al-Kubra, Hadith No. 8301) p. 113hadith

The hatred of the Quraysh was so intense that soon the Prophet, his wife Khadijah, their children, his uncle Abu Talib and his family, and all those who accepted Islam were forced to leave their homes in Makkah. They took refuge in an open plot of land called Shi’b Abi Talib, just outside the town. No proper houses were there, and they had to live in tents. It was like a refugee camp, and the family of the Prophet had to stay there for almost three years. They faced hunger, disease, and poverty. Sometimes, they had to eat the leaves from a tree to satisfy their hunger, for there was hardly anything else to eat. p. 113

Khadijah could have stayed on in Makkah. But she chose to stay with the Prophet in these times of trial and difficulty. Once the wealthiest lady of Makkah, Khadijah now lived in a makeshift tent under the open sky without enough food and water. But she did not complain. She bore the difficulties with great patience and endurance. Her presence supported the Prophet. p. 113

All the people in the makeshift camp lived in great poverty. They wore old clothes and slept on old blankets. They had hardly any personal belongings. Khadijah had just one wooden bucket and a mug. One day, even the mug broke. She did not have enough money to buy a new mug for herself. So, she remained patient about it. Luckily, a carpenter was passing her tent and agreed to repair it for her. p. 114

When the ban was finally lifted, the harsh treatment the believers had had to endure during the years of the ban had left them broken in mind and spirit. Their health suffered due to prolonged starvation, and many of them were sick. Khadijah’s health was not good either. She suffered great hardships and used to give all the food to her children and husband instead of eating herself. She passed away in the month of Ramadan in AD 619. p. 114